It’s been a while since I’ve written anything that has had a comedy twist to it. I’m going to quickly fast forward the last year. I quit my long time career, started a new part time job in a hospital and moved back home (with mommy and daddy) all for the love of education. A huge move for me take make but I figured it’s either now or never and regret that I never did something about my true passion. I decided to go back to school and get my bachelors in nursing!!!! However, right before I got deep into cleaning poop and taking exams I had the luxury of having some memorable times that are worth blogging about.
I’m going to jump right into it and ask why have men become so damn lazy when it comes to dating? My initial thought was that maybe I had chosen someone that was not very interested in me but the streak of picking Mr. Lazy-s kept going. I continued to meet men that just wanted a typical “Netflix and Chill” type night. For those that haven’t heard this 2015 catch phrase, it’s making fun of men that pretend to be romantic and want to stay in and watch movie with a woman. But in reality that man doesn’t even have a Netflix account and his motive is not to watch a movie but use it as a distraction tool to rip a woman’s clothes off and “seduce” her with his package. This technique is nothing new, it existed in my college days. But what I feel is different is the way men come about asking women to come over, it’s very blunt and direct without any tricks up their sleeves. And I don’t completely think its entirely the man’s fault, as I’m quite certain there are a few women out there that have encouraged this lackadaisical type of behavior and instead of pretending to watch a movie they rode the pony all night.
In all my years dating, I’ve questioned men’s motives for wanting to go on a date but never have I said that men where lazy or that all they wanted to do was land the deal. Yes eventually that is the goal but at least least they had the decency to play along and pretend that they liked me. But now, I don’t know why I consistently attract men that don’t want to do a damn thing. One man invited me to come over and specifically told me to buy my own wine and bring it. He was so lazy, he wanted me to get drunk on my own wine. Another one asked me to come over after not seeing him for like three months. And just to prove myself right the ones that I did feel comfortable in going over (okay they convinced me), well you guessed it there was no Netflix, they had old Blockbuster DVDs, some bootleg version of downloading movies, roommates lived with them, one lived in a basement with 1970s furniture and another one with designer plastic furniture. At 33+, if i’m going to be invited over at least have some IKEA furniture.
Is there something about me that has changed? Could it be my platinum blonde hair, the extra pounds I’ve put on, my yoga pants, or winged glasses that makes me a target for “yeah she is just fuck-able”. I question if there is something that I’m putting out to the universe that is making men think that I’m not even worth a TGIF happy hour special. I don’t understand it at all and has made dating even more discouraging than before. Or it could be very simple, these are just the wrong men and must keep digging to find the golden nugget.